Quote (savageman @ 11 Mar 2016 03:59)

thank you everyone, i love her alot but i think ill just move on an work on myself, because i think working on my anxiety means more to my life

Quote (Hubris @ Mar 10 2016 05:10pm)

Tell her that, there's no necessity to leave her, she may be happy that you want to work on yourself. If she leaves, then so be it - you were gonna leave her anyway. If it happens, shrug it off and work on yourself even more and realize that you can get any girl you want.

Quote (Darkblue @ 10 Mar 2016 18:05)

General but applied, we/I have love and lost in many different ways whether it was by one's own hand to sever or the other person's. We are able to love again.
Why should he? Responsibility? Maturity? One has to be whole to be able to have healthy love. If he has dysfunction with social anxiety/paranoia/trust issues that he has proven to not be able to overcome, it would be the mature and responsible thing to leave to work on oneself instead of creating more damage to himself/his partner. Really have to weigh the pros and cons in any situation though of course but these assessments are based on the face value of the OP.

Quote (howtodisappearcompletely @ Mar 10 2016 06:18am)

Many girls want outgoing & confident guys indeed. The dating scene can be difficult if you have social anxiety.

However, not all girls are like that. Your girlfriend is dating you, and I suspect that she knew what your personality is like from the very start. If she's dating you, it means she doesn't mind the social anxiety.



Stop hating yourself. Stop telling yourself that "anxiety holds you back". How you deal with your anxiety is what matters. If you break up with her because you're afraid of the future, you're only being self-destructive. Stop "dumping her". Start liking yourself, start liking her, and start accepting the fact that she likes you.