Quote (Rws @ Mar 20 2021 09:18am)
Somebody that is honest, that cares about other people, and is willing to work on the relationship.
If they're honest, selfless, and committed, those are the most attractive qualities to me.
Bruh I might worry you come for my gf after that description
As for me, I tried answering that question time and again only to conclude that you don't really have a say in what you'll end up with. You'll fall in love first and learn to accept the other while you walk your path with her. Not a lot of people take their time getting to know someone first and only then allow themselves to be engulfed by feelings for that person. I dated anything between a communist and a drug addict that went to hardcore festivals 10 times a year. There's really absolutely zero common ground between the women I've dated and the ones I've loved (well, as for the ones I've loved, they're all lefties on a political scale, but I don't find that particularly attractive (although I'm also a leftie))
But, to describe my current gf and what interests me, she's very open (to me) even from the beginning before we were anything. It's what brought us close early on. She's very much willing to work on things if it benefits us, takes me for all my crazy quirks and psycho depression episodes that sometimes envelop my daily life, she manages to cope with my batshit crazy family (much more so than I do), does her utmost to fit into my friends group.
One of the posters here said "not using me as her therapist", we are quite much each other's therapist and grateful for it. There's nothing we can't talk about, and if necessary we're happy to tell each other to bring it to a therapist or to a best friend instead of to a lover. Sometimes you need a push to do so and we're giving each other those pushes when needed.
Also, she has these supersilly moments that make me remember how playful and carefree she can be. I love girls that can be silly every once in a while