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Jun 23 2021 04:09pm
Quote (DiamondHands @ Dec 4 2020 06:03pm)
Why is the dad not in the picture after 1 year?


This is kind of how I felt about it all, honestly.

I don't think there's anything wrong with dating a woman with a child (or children), but the circumstances of the split up do matter and less than a year is a short time.

While I am a father myself, I, still, in my life I have dated a woman with an 8-month old and a divorcee with 2 children, one being as young as 2. Neither relationship was successful and I learned quickly just how significant the statement "2 sides to the story" is relevant.

I wouldn't say call it a dealbreaker, but approach with caution. Sadly, not every single mother's intentions are pure, nor are they all innocent either. There are many success stories out there too (to be honest, my fiancee' is not the mother of my children, but we're going strong close to 5 years now. It can happen, but, the woman being dated will need to prove her true intent, as I had to), but single parents (myself included) will always have that extra question-ability in my opinion

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Jun 27 2021 11:55am
No and not because of the kid but because of always having that other man in her life. If the dude was dead i wouldnt have a problem with it
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Jun 28 2021 06:19am
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No and not because of the kid but because of always having that other man in her life. If the dude was dead i wouldnt have a problem with it



Yeah and u never know if she still has feelings for her ex..

Imagine being a beta and dating a single mum and she goes back to her badboy ex who always treated her like shit.

Yeah no thanks

This post was edited by DiamondHands on Jun 28 2021 06:20am
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Sep 17 2021 01:11pm
Update on this old post:
A day or 2 after i posted this i asked her out. We got along so good, i asked her to marry me a few days ago. We are engaged. Also found out today she is pregnant. I couldn't be any happier with my life.
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Sep 17 2021 04:33pm
married my wife who has 3 kids. youngest is 1 and everyone just assumes hes mine(6now). when people ask if they are our kids we just say yep all 5 are ours.
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Oct 1 2021 07:41pm
it would depend on where you are in life.

if i was in college, maybe 21 years old... nah.

if i was 29 and single, living and working... yeah maybe. would also depend on situation with the real dad. that can get sticky especially with finances.

if you're serious about the girl. get to know her first and wait to meet the kid.
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Oct 2 2021 11:33am
kid is a no go for me, I do not want to have anything to do with kids honestly.
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Quote (xiktre @ Oct 2 2021 12:33pm)
kid is a no go for me, I do not want to have anything to do with kids honestly.


This.

From my experience, they are looking to settle now that they did what they want its your turn after the previous(s)
The wall is hitting them and they have to make drastic moves to try and land a mate that doesn't just one night stand them.
Baggage runs deep usually in these situations, wild emotion flare ups may be a thing due to the increased pressure to not be alone forever.

Femcel would be a good name.
Unable to feel genuinely loved or be genuinely loved due to giving themselves up in their early years.

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Oct 28 2021 12:37pm
Why not? They always have snacks and juice boxes. You're there to play around with her, you don't have to play with the kid.
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Oct 29 2021 02:34am
Yes because I’m in my 30’s. If I was in my teens or early 20’s, no.
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