Tell her that you care and you still want to make it work. Tell her that if she has worries and concerns she can trust you with them. And you should listen without giving any advice.

If she isnt receptive to that it might be over.

This post was edited by EndlessSky on Jun 28 2019 04:50pm

Hi, dizzle19. The best thing that I can advice here, is to ensure good communication by yourself, avoid arguing (it is possible, when another person starts to be angry, we could simply not answer in same manner, or delay further conversation). Also when someone complains about not talking to him/her, I would either try to spend more time together, and/or explain reasons that make it impossible.

You included in your topic's title this phrase "Girlfriend Wants To Break Up", but I have not found any information related to it - on the contrary, I noticed in post number #5, that during your last meeting your communication improved a bit. Loosing of job can be a stressful experience, it could be reason of recent behaviour, but I hope that it's only temporary. I don't think that her plans connected to marriage, or reluctance to use your support in paying bills, could mean incoming finishing of your relation. I suppose, that if it was the truth, she would rather avoid talking about further plans, or even deliberately use your assistance. I would probably try to support girlfriend in getting better work position, and/or guarantee financial support in case of situations that need immediate actions (examples: unpaid electricity bills, unpaid mortgage credit). You can also consider talking about marriage, if both of you are decided to live together, and if it seems like recent problems were only temporary. I wish you good luck, if you have further questions, you can quote my message and ask, so that I will receive notification and I will try to advise, assuming that I have enough knowledge and understanding.

This post was edited by icecool on Jun 29 2019 01:46pm

these previous posts have better advice than me

i was on a esclator and a guy was like dude girls are crazy

apologizing automatically as a habit hmmm idk.....

yes girls like flowers and love, but are they the right one

They feel off emotions. Are they angry about things u can't control?

Church is a great place for counseling. Pastors are great (i only know protestant)

does she realize ur working to provide? do u know her long term intentions?

girls going after marriage is a big one these days. That could be a trap.

Core Loyalty, a must from both parties. Otherwise its a mess and eventually with break apart

Pm this guy:
https://forums.d2jsp.org/user.php?i=1048121

He’s great with love advice

Run

I feel like the best thing to do in situations like this, is to just out of the blue, disappear. distant yourself, ignore phone calls for a week or two. if she makes no effort to call you, you have all the answers you need. Make sure she knows you are serious in what you look for in a long run relationship and not waste time

You can talk to her. You can tell her that there is a communication gap between you and her. If she won't understand then, make her understand. Talk politely so that she won't get pissed off. Make her understand that communication is very much important.
Even after all your attempts, she doesn't understand, let her go! anyway, this way you will be hurting your self-respect too.

Im not an expert

I remember the famous Mahatma Ghandi quote tho

If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.”

wtf, thank god that she is not talking that much

Try this method of non-confrontational communication.

When you -insert here- it makes me feel like -insert here- next time could we -insert here-.

No raised voices, no attacks, just state what she is doing, how it makes you feel and how to solve that situation.

You say she argues and complains about nothing but it isn’t nothing, people’s feelings are theirs and they have the right to have them. Listen to her really actively listen. And then respond and try to have an intelligent conversation that solves the issue rather than being frustrated and getting nowhere. If she truly isn’t willing to do this, or you aren’t, who knows maybe your personality types just aren’t a match.

When you argue with me it makes me feel bad, can we try to have an intelligible conversation about what you want instead?

I know it sounds a little meh, but it works for me in many areas of life... give it a shot.