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Mar 14 2019 10:22pm
I have be considering dating a few people at work, but I think it could cost me in the long run? Or cause issues...

Are work place relationships more problematic than most? What do you all think of this type of a relationship?
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Mar 15 2019 12:46pm
Never goes well
U get mad and u must see them every single day
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Mar 15 2019 04:47pm
do it i mean the worst thing that can happen is that you have to see someone you hate or they might try to get you fired every day
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Mar 15 2019 06:09pm
Is this fear to fail I feel? Or is this common sense to avoid a high risk situation? Still at 50/50 one says yes one says no...
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Mar 15 2019 08:28pm
It's good to have boundaries on fledgling relationships, and to communicate them. On one hand, I personally wouldn't have any problem with it. On the other, the potential for drama is exacerbated.

The fear of failure should be far from your mind when you're engaging someone with the desire to pursue them for a relationship. You don't start off a good foundation with cracks and creepers crawling through it.

Most people will avoid the drama because of the unknown or what they deem to be inevitable.

However, if the cards are laid down, and two co-workers are understanding of the risks, it could be pursued. It's an entirely subjective answer relative to each individual.

I'd also argue that the majority of people are going to tell you it is a fool's errand. And that's due to the excessively large number of workplace relationships that do fail.

To work back to boundaries; space is good for people in a relationship. If you are married it's good to have a break from each other. This is usually your work day, or your hobbies, or your relationships with friends, where you can relate to one another after being separate for various periods.

I've never dated a co-worker, but that's because most have been males. The few females I did enjoy at work were not worth the risks.
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Mar 15 2019 10:16pm
It depends. Some people end up in long lasting relationships because they met as co-workers. Sometimes they have kids. Attraction can happen anywhere.
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Mar 25 2019 07:39pm
If you are in different departments give it a try.

But make sure you have a bunch of coworkers to back you up if she goes full-on bunny boiler on you.
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Mar 26 2019 11:01am
theres five couples at the job im at. dunno if they met there probably not but i dont see anything wrong with it.
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Mar 26 2019 12:49pm
if you don't work directly with each other, sure
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Mar 26 2019 02:48pm
do you start problems?
do they seem like the kind of person to start problems?

if either of these is a solid yes, do not attempt
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