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Mar 11 2018 05:25pm
so I ask this girl if she'd like to have dinner with me and that we can cook together. she lives with her grandma and includes her & her grandma's sister for dinner, as well as playing cards together afterwards with a couple glasses of wine. the night goes really well, everything is high energy and they're laughing at my jokes and asking questions about me and back and forth.

afterwards when her grandmother wants to go to bed and her grandmother's sister goes home she asks if i'd like to stay and watch a movie. we go downstairs and she sits on the floor working on some artwork and kinda just on her phone. still good energy with talking and so on.

after that's over I leave to go home and no indication of wanting to kiss/hug as a farewell so I don't force the issue. next morning she says she had a great time, how much her grandmother and her sister liked me, and would like to see me again.

what is the deal here? how is it that there are several factors in play that would indicate interest but then no indication of physical affection? she is not a shy girl, has lots of confidence and friends.
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Mar 11 2018 05:56pm
nvm she just asked me if I have any hook ups, friend zoned


"You have any 💚 Hook ups right now. I can’t get ahold of mine"

This post was edited by Giannis on Mar 11 2018 05:57pm
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Mar 11 2018 06:35pm
maybe that means weed? idk in the context of the conversation that didnt make sense ot me
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Mar 11 2018 07:14pm
Yes it means weed. And she wants to smoke with you.

You are blowing this for firaga.

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Make a move.

This post was edited by Ep0ch on Mar 11 2018 07:15pm
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Mar 11 2018 07:24pm
so she comes over for like 30 minutes, sits on my bed talking to me about her artwork and things going on in her life then gets up to leave and go paint...
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Mar 11 2018 08:02pm
Quote (Giannis @ Mar 11 2018 08:24pm)
so she comes over for like 30 minutes, sits on my bed talking to me about her artwork and things going on in her life then gets up to leave and go paint...


Join her?

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When she was on your bed did you attempt the 90/10 move?

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Mar 11 2018 08:06pm
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Join her?

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When she was on your bed did you attempt the 90/10 move?


what is the 90/10 move, talking about leaning in and seeing if she wants to kiss? didn't seem like there was ever an indication of a good timing for that

I know when to feel out "the moment" and there never seems to be any heat but like I said she talks about things that make it seem like there is so its conflicting
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Mar 12 2018 07:28am
How old are you? Was she on your bed because you are a kid and you have no where else to hang out?

Because as an adult, if shes on your bed, she prob likes you.

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Mar 12 2018 07:39am
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How old are you? Was she on your bed because you are a kid and you have no where else to hang out?

Because as an adult, if shes on your bed, she prob likes you.


i'm an adult, and there were other places to hang out... but she has sat in my bed before, yet talks about other guys you know? like this particular instance she came over for about a half hour, talked about stuff going on in her life, then as she was leaving was talking about her ex from over 1 year ago. the night we had dinner also tapered off into a bit of talk about her ex relationship, not in a fond way... more of like complaining about the bad things that happened. the ex is out of the picture as he lives across the country, she moved here about a year and a half ago. she says things like how she needs to get out of her own head with thinking about him, but never makes any indication of wanting to move forward with me so I don't push it

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Mar 12 2018 08:42am
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maybe that means weed? idk in the context of the conversation that didnt make sense ot me


The best question you can ask a woman when you don't understand is, "what do you mean?"
MEMORIZE THAT. Because you will likely misinterpret things,

I would just be relaxed. You should have just gone for the hug and or just thrown in a kiss.
My favorite thing is to just say some dumb line, with humor to ease the tension, "Lets just get this kiss over with already"

She's likely hung up in the ex as you said. So she's holding back.

That's a pain in the butt to deal with. But he's gone. However she's likely going to have some mixed emotions.
She still likes parts about that guy.

Just be patient and relaxed, but also genuine. Go with the flow.

It might work out, it might not, fuck it. Who cares. Just concentrate on having fun.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on Mar 12 2018 08:42am
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