Quote (KitsuneYosh @ Nov 2 2017 04:03pm)
So continue to be friendly around her, but don't be overly nice or act too interested is what you're saying? Don't go out of my way to care for her.
Does this mean I shouldn't ever text her? Can I still ask her to go do things with me? I don't mean on dates, but say I'm going to an event. Can I invite her along?
The reason I ask is because I only see her for an hour per day, and in class no less. So there's not much room for conversation past saying how are you. There's no room for me to build attraction in that setting.
Basically, I feel like if I never see her outside of class, she will easily get bored of me since that is not an exciting setting. And why would she ever text me first?
Thoughts?
I wouldnt. The thing is, at this point, she isn't interested. The mistake you're making is you think you have to do something to rectify your situation. It's the illusion of action.
In reality, when someone stops caring, you stop.
You need to go to the people that share mutual interest with you. When women like you, they will help you and make it easy, literally all you have to do is walk through doors.
When they don't like you, they shut the door on your face. And right now you're asking whether to knock or not.
Dont. If anything, just speak your truth "listen, I would easy like to continue with things, I always enjoyed the time we spent, let me know if you ever change your mind" then just hard move on.
Sometimes women will come back from this. And if they don't, well, there was nothing you could do regardless.
Attraction isn't really a choice. If she has interest, eventually she will reach out again.
It's happened to me before. It's actually attractive for a person to be willing to walk away from those who no longer value or pursue them. Its a declaration of self respect.
It's you saying "I'm not wanted here, so I must find where I am wanted" and that takes strength
This post was edited by GLYC123 on Nov 4 2017 02:35am