Quote (GLYC123 @ Nov 2 2017 07:28pm)
" I finally got her to agree to get coffee with me one day, and we had a long conversation."
Finally got her to agree?
Don't chase after women, if they become cold and distant, back off. Possibly you were coming on too strong, that may be your issue.
A man has to find that sweetspot, where he cares, but he doesn't care TOO much. Going on a double date so early was a mistake in my opinion. It worked out for you, but that's really more of a couple thing for when shes a girlfriend.
I think you probably made her feel pressured. Possibly she felt like you were trying to lock her down too hard, that makes women run. It's better to take things slow, and just go with the flow.
But, it's hard to say, but this could be the reason why women have left you in the past.
Should I distance myself from her and pretend to not be interested? Start dating other women, dont be a cold dick, always be kind to women.
Should I talk to other girls around her to make her jealous? No. Don't play games, but do start dating other women. If you're talking to a woman and she shows up, so be it, but don't deliberately do it just to make her feel jealous. That's weak.
Should I continue to try and flirt with her and do things with her? No. You dont run after someone that rejects you, if she reaches out to you, be nice and sweet, be indifferent and lighthearted, be fun, but otherwise, dont bother. Don't reach out, she knows you want her. She can contact you.
Do you think she is being honest about dating in the future? Or is she just letting me down easy like girls tend to do? Letting you down easy, when women say, it's not you it's me, it's generally you.
But women will never give you a straight answer, they don't want to hurt men's feelings. Possibly it is another man.
OP should come on the way that fits his character, not the way that the opposite side dictates, is what I think.
What happened to "be yourself"?