Quote (Anton24 @ Aug 15 2017 08:08pm)
Overthinking leads to sadness. Point blank.
The best thing you can do is communicate and adapt. And if your heart is still met by a guarded stone wall, do not rail against it. Follow your gut instincts.
You have the right to step away from ANYTHING in life that doesn't become you or support you. Period. That could be work, family, hobbies. If you aren't happy, and you've spent one-too-many sleepless nights on the issue, you simply set it down, and walk away.
Love is not about possession, it is about appreciation. If she cannot appreciate you, she does not get to own you, or your heart.
Be a man and lift your chin up. I've said this before; walk tall. Be proud. The scars and lessons you've earned etched into the exterior and the very fiber of your being do not belittle you. Nor do they become you. They are simply nuances and reminders of the past: a door closed and another opened.
Take a deep breath. With your back and shoulders, your gut, your very diaphragm, and look in the mirror. Simply ask yourself if you are happy and do not lie to the man staring back.
Because he's the only one who will give you joy, garner you self-worth, and he's the only one who matters at the end.
There may come a time when God is calling for you, at the very end of all things. If you can look in the mirror and just forgive yourself for your sins, and be proud of what you became, you won't endure the consistent Hell you put yourself in daily by giving anyone but yourself your happiness.
Take it from a man who self-medicated, self-loathed, and has now found inner peace.
Time alone will take care of the rest. What you choose to do during that time is your business. But make it enjoyable and constructive and walking away will be easier.
Quote (GLYC123 @ Aug 15 2017 09:54pm)
Well, that's all you can do. Communicate, if she doesn't change or give a crap, then you have to accept that that may be the way things with her will be forever. Meaning, ou either accept that or leave. Never lose your cool during disagreements, you should control how the discussions and the moods go. If you remain calm, it will help her remain calm.
Tell her straight up what your needs are. If her response is that she doesn't care about your feelings, tell her to let you know if that ever changes, you don't have time o waste with people that don't consider you to be important and youre.not.going to settle for people that treat you less than that.
Man, I was honestly expecting trolls.. I appreciate your advice more than you you know.. no other being has ever fucked me up more than this person