I'm in love with my s/o but feel that I'm being used for any and every resource I can possibly give.. I'm being emotionally drained, unappreciated and mistreated.. but keep finding myself not wanting to leave?? How does one find the strength?

This post was edited by Saltburn on Aug 14 2017 08:59am

Benzos

You just do it because you know that it's what you need to do despite that it isn't what you want to do. That shit takes strength.

My recommendation though? Communicate first. State what you're feeling and what your needs are.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on Aug 14 2017 12:22pm

I have tried to communicate and understand that it gets misinterpreted easily with said s/o.. and afterwards I reflect and wonder if I didn't communicate properly.. things just keep blowing up. I try to remain calm and patient but then I feel so shat up and dismissed that it gets to me and I lose it. And when I do get the luxury of expressing, I don't feel any acknowledgement.. like what I'm getting is just "I hurt your feelings? Ok?.. and? So?.." I can leave whenever I want but I just don't have it in me.. I need to stop loving this person and I feel like I just can't.. it's driving me crazy.. I've never even posted about stuff like this in a forum ever, it's all new. I think I'm changing

It's like a drug. If you're too weak to be without it, find another drug that can help ween you off of it.

If your 1st instinct is to leave. Then follow it.

BUT, seems like you're having a hard time.
So. Either it's the normal human aspects that are holding you back. Or... you still have something to learn from this relationship, once w/e it is happens, you'll be more "aware" and have a much easier course of action.

Good luck!

Have you considered therapy/ counseling. Sometimes having a third unbiased person help mediate can help the communication do it comes out right.

Every time I'm about to I just can't. I keep thinking of how great the love and sacrifices were.



I would do this but not sure if she would.

get drunk, met other girl, even better, do it in front of her.

you will only win.

This seems to work for other people but I personally could never do that :/