Quote (fender @ Apr 17 2019 01:44pm)
certainly makes it understandable why you're so emotional about this, but i still think your hate is directed at the wrong party here. someone who's looking for a way out of a situation they've been put into because of who they ARE (not because of any choices they made themselves) doesn't deserve that kind of vitriol in my opinion, even if you disagree with their approach of dealing with it. i can totally see how it feeds into the self-victimisation narrative, but the fact that you have to label someone's commitment to serve in their armed forces a 'free ride' in order to justify it, just illustrates to me that you're not really interested in considering their side in a fair way.
again, no one is forced to donate to them (i personally would not do it either), but you can't deny that they are being treated unfairly -
careful, you were almost nice.
i should add my freshman room mate and a few friends were in the ROTC program and I know how lax the program is. it's a deferred commitment, you get the free ride then 4 years later they shove you off to war. some do the work to get enlisted, many dont from what i've seen.
i think the person is being treated unfairly, and is being victimized, and i think they're handling it in a childish and entitled way. that's all.
when i was a kid we moved around every 2 years. i handled the moves with grace, sought out new friends day 1, joined sports teams and clubs, etc. my sister was a moody little whiner who would just complain about her old friends being gone for a year before trying to make new ones, then the cycle would repeat. as adults we're night and day, i'm adaptable and a people person. she's a homebody who got lucky in finding a wealthy husband. i love her dearly but i wouldn't be her for a million dollars. challenges should faced head on, not with an open palm.
This post was edited by thesnipa on Apr 17 2019 01:54pm