Quote (Kosua1 @ May 25 2022 03:37am)
Hello! It's a tough question and not easily answered as it lies within you. I feel like I can grasp what you're asking but I still miss a few pieces.
Did you get closure with your ex wife?
The events that played out after that are all very unfortunate events. Have you dealt with the trauma of these events?
Do you compare yourself now and then? It seems like you are in this text.
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Maybe you have been thinking about it, maybe not but we all change. I too can look back and at first it's like "Yeah, that's me.. I need to be him again" but after many more thoughts you realize you're not him anymore, you've grown to be him but in a different way, a changed man - for better or worse. It's what time does to us and we need to adapt - not dwell on the past.
If you feel sad, have a bad day, think about these things.. do it, let it be so but then move on to present time. Idk, it's deep and I hope this helped you somewhat.
Thank you very much for the thoughts, it is truly appreciated.
I did not get closure there, I was confused as can be and so were all of our mutual friends and even her family.
I have been able to deal with all of the bad events. Although I miss my father and others, I accept that and have moved on to try and live a good life.
You might have hit the nail on the head here. I always compare myself to before, when I was younger, stronger, much better off financially and all of that. Perhaps today's events with inflation have made this feeling worse but it is hard to say.
I need to move on and stop dwelling on the past as you say. It is just so difficult to remember the excitement I had towards the day and now although things are very good I cant even reach half or even 25% of that feeling as before. Even when I travel or do amazing things today.
I will continue to work on getting past this. Thanks so much.