Quote (Happypuppy @ Jun 20 2018 04:51pm)
I’m looking for a wife and I’d like some input on what I’m looking for is reasonable. I have never dated or been in a relationship.
Here are the things I’m looking for
1. Must be a virgin (dealbreaker for me)
2. Educated (graduate degree preferred, bachelors is acceptable)
3. Should not drink, smoke, cuss, or do drugs
4. Age 25+
5. Not overly religious
6. Shares some common interests with me (gaming, travel, etc)
Are those reasonable in your opinion?
I’d also like to hear some of the things that you look for in a partner and things you would consider deal breakers.
Thanks!
Pretty sure a troll post, but someone else might benefit from this,
I would say..
Far too unreasonable.
To find all of that criteria, and for the person to have a personality that compliments you, you be attracted to her, and for there to be mutual chemistry just isn't likely. Plus, you have little dating experience, you should probably start dating then, it really is a skill set and an art in some ways. Some people naturally have it, but some others are completely clueless.
Everyone has quirks and flaws.
Forget #1, that alone will open you up to 90%+ more potential matches.
Educated, yes, but college degrees aren't always a perfect sign of a person being intelligent. But there are a lot of women out there with college degrees so, there are also a lot of intelligent women as well.
No drinking? How about no excessive drinking? A person that takes care of themselves. No cussing? At all? Seems a little ridiculous, person would probably be a little uptight.
Age 25+, that's fine.
Not overly religious. Understandable, the overly zealous/dominational partners just won't work out if you aren't that way as well, or it's at least very unlikely.
Some common interests are good. Though, It's actually kind of nice to date someone that brings some new things to the table sometimes too, that can challenge you. Most people will, there's no way you will probably like 100% of the same things so.
The list is a fair idea.
However, a better route would be to list more personality traits, appearance, possibly hobbies. Make a list of about 25 things, and select your favorite 5 or 10.
So for example, you could say something like, "I'm looking for a brunette woman, with a fit build, who has a great relationship with her family, loves to joke around, is health conscious, and loves her life, and what she does for a living"
I just think that's better criteria in my book.
It then gives you a template for what you are looking for, instead of blindlessly searching.
Though I wouldn't fixate on the list having to be 100% spot on, it will help you identify the thinfs that are truly important to you to find in another partner.
Best wishes.
This post was edited by GLYC123 on Jun 22 2018 01:47am