Quote (ringo794 @ Jun 10 2018 06:24pm)
Have you tried approaching her about her mental health, rather than the issues that it is leading to?
Things like having a job and a car are your preferences. It's not fair to expect her to conform her life to yours, so if that's too much for you, I'd suggest breaking it off.
If she is suffering from anxiety and depression, that's what you need to address.
To add to this; instead of you offering support and discussing her anxiety and depression have her speak with a professional who can set her on a plan or medication for improvement and see where that goes.
In the end, if she can't help herself, what makes you think you can? Sounds like you're becoming an adult and she may not be willing to bear the same responsibilities or may not have the same goals in life. Which is fine, but YOU need to determine if you can accept that, which from your post you may not be so willing.