Quote (Mindfield @ May 27 2018 01:03pm)
Hi guys,
Before I tell you about my love drama, I just want to beg you to put aside the facts I tell you about this girl and her family and focus on our relations only.
So I've been in a relationship with this girl for 8 months.
She was married when we met, but haven't been living with her husband for more than a year. She has 2 kids, which is not a problem for me, because I love kids even if they're not mine.
So we met at work and hit up pretty fast. She's very good looking and I really like her.
She got divorced and I thought things will pick up from here, but it got even worse.
Ever since her parents left the country to work in Germany She's being quite weird, lieing me all the time, mostly about money. She's always in the middle of some drama with her pothead friends, which I don't approve. I always helps her out, try to calm her down, lend her money, which I never get back so far(currently over 2k eur).
Don't get me wrong, I don't care about the money and I don't want them back. I just want her to be happy, because she suffered a lot while she was married.
The problem is her treatment of me - all the lies, all the promises she made She's gonna quit smoking pot, all the meaningless drama when she's upset for a reason I'm not a part of... recently she sold a gold neckless I bought her for Christmas at a pawn shop..
All the signs show I should ditch her.. I know.. but I love her a lot, I love spending time with her and her children(which love me by the way), I like to see their smiley faces, I don't wanna just leave her raise those 2 kids by herself.. I can see how much She's struggling..
And yet I feel I'm not getting the treatment I deserve for being so good and helpful.
So what should I do?
Quote (Mindfield @ May 28 2018 01:17am)
I don't mind being used for a couple of months until she's back on her feet.
I care about her being in a bad spot, because I really like this girl and I feel sorry she had to go trough all the bad moments in her life. I want to give her something different, but she keeps pushing me away with all the lies.. I'll give myself a few more days to think... we'll see how it goes..
From experience, I'd bet a good chunk of that money is going towards drugs. Don't be an enabler - though that isn't your intention - some people aren't ready to be helped by others if they aren't even helping themselves. DO step out of the picture for a little and give it some time.