Quote (GLYC123 @ 27 May 2018 22:37)
Sounds like you need some testicular fortitude.
Lying to you all the time? Drama with her pothead friends (so she hangs around losers)?
You're giving her all this money, over 2k in euros.
Dude, get out. I would say "Thanks for the memories, but we aren't on the same page here, best wishes."
Sometimes you need to leave behind people even if you enjoy being with them when you know your values don't align and they don't respect you. Think about things long-term, if you think of it like that, you're just wasting your time and delaying any possibility of you actually finding someone great.
You're being a pushover. Where are your boundaries? Your self respect?
Don't you think that you matter too? Stop always putting yourself last.
"recently she sold a gold neckless I bought her for Christmas at a pawn shop.."
Does this really sound like a person that cares about you? Be honest.
You made this topic because you already had these hidden suspicions. Trust your gut here.
Seriously, how can you have a fun and effortless relationship with someone like This?
Quote (EndlessSky @ 28 May 2018 01:49)
Vouch, she's playing you like a fiddle. She doesnt care about you, just that you give her resources.
You don't want the mother of your children to behave like that. There are much better women out there
Thank you for your answers guys. I really appreciate you taking off you time to help me out.
I know I'm being a pushover here, but I'm ready to put up with this for the moment.
She's at a very fragile spot in her life - recently divorced, with 2 kids and her parents left her to go to another country...
I also feel bad that I gave her hopes and we talked about living together, having a child... i don't want to abandon her now, but I do want to show her she can't go on like this.
Last night I told her over the phone that I need some time to reevaluate our relationship. She was looking pretty bad and I was so sorry I've said that.. She told me she wont call me before I figure it out.
Bottom line is I don't feel she's so bad person, she just a little lost at the moment.