I have no idea what you're even trying to say.
Have a life outside of women, a great life that you want to live, invite women on your fun bus. If you aren't enjoying your life while you're single, you won't be happy when a woman comes along anyways (after that initial luster of a new person in your life wears off).
Women don't typically approach men first. They can, and some will . But there are also a bunch that won't, however, many will put themselves in your orbit and give you signs hoping that you get the hint. Aka, messaging you randomly, smiling at you from across a room. They're hoping you get the hint and ask them out. Women don't want the power or to be the man in the relationship.
You can hate it if you want, but it's better to adapt, I didn't make women this way.