I have a 4 yo kid and haven't been with the mother since she was 6 months old.

I dated a girl once, for two years, she said she was fine with it but when it got more serious and my kid started to sleep at my house, she broke down and left me.
She already knew I was a father before dating.

I am now dating again and I am very scared of telling anyone new that I have a kid. I am scared that they'll either do the same thing or just stop seeing me.

I am now seeing this woman and I love all the time I spend with her, went on three dates now and we are really hitting it off.

I am going to tell her tonight that I have a kid and explain to her that I am not looking to include her in my daughter's life until a while, I'm not looking for a second mother. At best, she'll be daddy's "friend" until she understands the concepts of relationships.

I am not going to introduce them for a very long time anyways so that is far away.

Anyone had this kind of experience, how did It go? What would you have done differently?

Cheers

I feel like there's a good amount of women that are open to dating men with kids.
Especially when you date women 30+. As long as you're a good father, there's a lot of women that don't mind that.

You can always explain that she has a mother. And that you aren't looking for a second mother.
Just say she has a great relationship with her mother, you both share her equally and it works great.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on May 10 2018 11:41pm

I told her yesterday,

Here's how it went:
Sooo, there is something I'd like you to know about me that is really important, I wanted to wait and see how we evolve together before saying this but since I'm feeling like we are hitting off really well, I wanted to tell you right now that I have a 4 year old child.

I did not want you to learn at a later time, that would have been unfair for you to not know this about me and I do not want to hide anything from you.
I am not looking for a second mother or for you to even meet her for quite a while, until our relationship evolves in a way that makes me confortable to introduce you to her.


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She asked me a couple of questions, I told her I was really happy that she didn't freak out, and she said that I'm a very good person. Then we kissed and cuddled.
She also told me that she was pregnant once but lost her baby. So we talked about that too.

All in all, I'm very glad this is now off my chest.

Hopefully that inspires others to date as single fathers and gives them hope, as I at one point thought it would be very very difficult.

Good job, you handled that flawlessly.

And I agree, in fact, it can be difficult, because there are people that won't date a single parent if they themselves aren't single parents.
It does happen. However, we all have to play with the cards we've been dealt. Its best just to be positive and work with what you've got.

Thanks bro,
Yeah there is plenty of woman that are ready for this.
I have noticed that dating 30+ is easier and more satisfying. Woman know what they want in life and those who don't are easier to weed out.

It's a very interesting age range and I'm happy I'm now able to be in that pool.

Disagree.

You could have wasted three really good dates if she ran away.
Should be upfront from the jump.

I don't know, sex was amazing, no harm done even if she ran away.

get a single mom, with a child of same age, different sex than yours
all will be fine

This post was edited by Saucisson6000 on May 12 2018 10:19am

This

Not wanting to date single moms.