tl;dr: Should non-monogamy (open relationships and polyamory) be included in sexual health education in the public K - 12 system? Poll is just a PaRD survey about infidelity.
While I would hope that we can all agree that sexual health education in American society is abysmal, especially in the public K - 12 system, one aspect of the discussion that never really gets talked about much is non-monogamy. There's debates that rage on about whether contraception, abortion, and LGBTQ+ health should be integrated into sexual health education, but even among the most sexually liberal people, the topic of non-monogamy doesn't usually come up.
American society revolves around monogamy as the acceptable and ideal relationship structure, and this has been reinforced by legal marriage, representations in the media, and what's taught in school. However, several studies have explored the rates of infidelity within the United States, albeit with varying results, but independent of the specific % of people who have either cheated and/or been cheated on, one thing is certain: monogamy ends up not working for a significant % of people throughout their lifetime, and many of these people might be more compatible with an open relationship or a polyamorous relationship if they had the ability to consider and explore these options without social reproach.
In fact, infidelity is so popular that entire websites opened up to cater to those pursuing something outside of a monogamous relationship. Ashley Madison was/is perhaps the most notable example, which boasted 46 million users in 2016.
Anonymous survey studies have varying results, but here are just a few:
A 2011 survey of 1,000 Americans found that:
"Almost one-quarter of men (23.2%) and 19.2% of women indicated that they had "cheated" during their current relationship (i.e., engaged in sexual interactions with someone other than their partner that could jeopardize, or hurt, their relationship)".
Source:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21667234Other results include:
"Another study, published in the National Opinion Research Center’s 2013 General Social Survey, found that while the percentage of men who admitted to infidelity has held constant over the last two decades, the percentage of wives who reported having affairs rose almost 40 percent."
Given that infidelity exists at whatever rates that they do, would it not behoove our society to not hold so tightly to monogamy as being the "one true relationship" structure? Would it be beneficial for people to learn about non-monogamy early on, so that they can freely explore their own relationship ideals and have a language to express themselves to a potential partner(s)?
Or, would embracing non-monogamy as equal in value to monogamy just degrade relationships as a whole and lead to moral decay?
This post was edited by Handcuffs on Apr 18 2018 06:06pm