Quote (d2jspNA @ Jan 29 2018 08:38pm)
Been friends with this girl for 4 years.
We sparked the day before christmas and are still currently dating.
I don't have a problem with her looks, her friends, or anything like that.
The issue is her personality is becoming apparent to me.
I can't be around my friends because we're memers and like to poke at eachother
She can't take a joke, she can't be around any other female or there is an issue.
She can't do sarcasm, she can't tell when I'm joking.
She apologizes for things she isn't responsible for and I can't explain to her I'm not mad.
Anyway- I woke up almost 2 weeks ago and I realized I don't think I love her.
I thought I was having a mood swing and just got over it, a week passed and I didn't feel that way again during that week.
I woke up yesterday feeling the same thing- but, now I feel guilty. She has really really really bad self-esteem, she thought I was going to leave her a month ago. She always brings up losing me... I just want her to chill the fuck out and be herself and she won't. I don't know how to explain to her if we do break up "why?"
I don't want to hurt her because she has potential suicidal tendencies, and I don't want to lose a friend. She comes on discord with my friends everyday and it will make shit so awkward if we break up.
Obviously advice here is all opinion based, so take it as you will.
I'm a strong believer in that you have to take care of yourself first, even if you are in a relationship, your happiness and what you want has to come first. Just think about what you want to do, weigh out your options and decide.
Alot of the personality clashes that you have with her aren't things that she could easily change/ try to work. These are defining characteristics of who she is as a person. So you have to ask yourself is that what you are looking for in a relationship, can you continue to endure it.
I think if you come forward and talk to her about it she will probably be offended by it, but at the same time your relationship is still pretty fresh and seems like the honeymoon stage went away pretty fast. So maybe she will still be okay with being friends since you were already friends for such a long time.