So not necessarily sexual but i want something with adult romance marriage starting a family stuff like that

Usagi Drop
Toradora

??

Yosuga no Sora

bokura ga ita - highschool romance but mature relationship stuff.
itazura na kiss - starts in highschool and ends somewhere in their 30's.

Clannad
And it's sequel

appreciate the reply's but i have seen all the above.
any others?

Most of your Josei romances are going to be up your alley.
The opposite side of that coin is darker more sexual stuff.

Kinda up to you.

i dont mind dark sexual stuff i just said it did not need to be but im down for that as well

bible black

Most are manga cuz no adaptation