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All of my yes. What language did you pick up? Was she like, "I don't know why he looks at me :S" or, "I don't know why he looks at ME"? Two big differences there. She either thought it was creepy af or she might be insecure and thinks you have prettier girls to look at. With the whole boyfriend thing though, idk man. If she was pointing you out and you didn't see a reaction on his face, who knows? Maybe he's not even a boyfriend, and if you're lucky maybe he's a gay friend of hers she asked to help scope you out lol

Bingo.

Cardinal rule fellows.

Never invest in women when you aren't even sure if there is any possibility of her being a romantic prospect. What the fuck kind of advice is this?

It's called, I'm not wasting my time or thoughts with a woman that isn't interested or is in a relationship. It's called self respect. And being objective.

I'm not saying to be a dick to women, or ignore them. But I'm definitely not messaging her phone out of the blue, or trying to get her out on dates if that criteria isn't there.
No self respecting man will sit around and wait for women to change their minds or become single. He will simply go, as of right now, she isnt available, so I will find someone who is.

Also, do you really want to be the guy that's getting inbetween relationships? I don't. I have more respect for that title, and if a man was trying to get in between my relationship, I would be pissed.
Plus, if she leaves him for you, she'll only do the same to you once she becomes unhappy anyways.

This is in regards to women you want to date, not friendships. Which if you're looking for friendships, you're in the wrong subforum.

This post was edited by GLYC123 on Aug 18 2017 02:04pm

That's where I misunderstood. I guess it's a love forum, but the sentence on it own was pretty cringy. In reference to relationships I'd still say better advice is to just get to know people regardless of relationship status and then explore interpersonal relationships as they form. I prefer not to keep track of who's banging who at the time.

The problem with the friendship deal is it ultimately loses priority to the relationship deal, regardless of how long or how frequent. Especially as you get older.

There's plenty of people who are fine being friends on the societal and "keeping up with the Joneses" level, but if you sit them down and toss em a few drinks, you end up with, "I don't see why he won't ask me out" or "well it's awkward now" or "what's her deal?" sort of tomfoolery.

I'm not saying not to invest in interpersonal relationships and I'm definitely not advocating cavalier or "fuh dat b" mindsets, but men and women were meant to mate.

Take it from Al Bundy, "women talk to women and they hate each other." If you're just a surrogate woman you're emasculating your odds of any sort of coitus regardless of your goals. You literally won't be friends over their significant other in time. Maybe on the in-between level like GLY said, but that again puts you in unsure waters with no concrete direction.

Just my opinion.

All these problems are avoidable by just being real and honest.