Nailed it.

If your source for motivation and happiness is anything but yourself, youve already failed.

i think its really interesting that you guys would cry over messages? Is it some sensitivve info in those messages or am i missing something ?

get over the rom com shit

people fuck up and make mistakes either you grow together or grow apart

mistake>identify mistake>apologize sincerely>correct behavior to prevent repeating mistake>communicate openly and lovingly through the entire process

you don't jsp this shit you look that woman square in the eyes and you say I'm sorry for my mistake. I did this. I love you. This is how I am going to correct my behavior because it was wrong and because I want to try my best to be better to you as that is what you deserve

she forgives you because that's what women do

you give her a stabbin' the way she likes, yall live to fight another day

I like u

this is the advice
seems like you handled the situation well
maybe dwell on this if you want to sit on the principles and take more from this experience.
ignore the comments that seem to think men are supposed to carry themselves in some identifiable way.

This post was edited by ringer794 on Jun 18 2017 11:17am

Thanks honey!

Long Distance Relationships...
Do. Not. Work.

But, to get into your stuffs, I would say that the whole crying in the kitchen thing showed her that you were more hurt by the act than she was. If she took the message, you're fine. If she did not take the message, I'd wonder if she's the gal I'd want to spend my life with.

I check behind my fiance all the time. I wouldn't dare tell him. You're pretty fuckin bold.

That's not true at all lol. Was in a long distance relationship with my wife for 2 years during college. If you both want it to work it will... it's not without its struggle though. @op one thing that you and your girl should talk about is understanding. I've found that understanding is more important than anything in a relationship. You're both going to make mistakes, that's unavoidable. Having the understanding and the maturity to look passed those acts is going to hold you guys together.

You obviously felt some type of way to check her messages and that should be communicated. Being able to see both perspectives will help you guys overcome this.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯