Quote (Haril @ Mar 9 2017 01:42pm)
So my girl is 24, with already 2 kids from another man.
She's getting a divorce because her husband cheated on her while she was 6 months pregnant.
She also wants to have another child before she's 26.
She is financially stable on her own.
But she wants another child from him, no intercourse...
So all three of her children will be blood.. and all have the same family so forth..
what the fuck am I going to do....
Are you married? If not, you're a pseduo-stepfather? Do you pay their bills? You say she's financially stable on her own. How stable would she be if you walked out? Do you love her? Do you want to marry her? Would she have more kids with you (as in, is she done after this third kid period, leaving you with none of your own blood offspring were you to pursue this for life?)
You have a shit ton of questions to answer.
First and foremost; do you love her? Does it matter? I would say yes, and yes. Mainly because you're here. You're trapped or lost.
The first key to liberating yourself in this position, is the most simple step. Tell her how you feel.
Secondly; are you going to be raising these kids? Is your relationship with her right now trending towards that? As in, do you stay over often, cook breakfast for the kids, and are around?
If you're not even in the picture aside from the void you filled by being the rebound, and she's not even done with that relationship, you've just jumped in without wondering how deep the water is. You can easily back out of this situation if you have no serious attachment. As it stands, I'm left to speculate based on the information given.
Given the situation, regardless of length of time I had been with someone, I would feel insulted. "Wait, you want the cheating gene bred into your next child so that all three can donate blood to each other in a catastrophic event?" "You realize that the third child would still have your blood, just maybe, other traits from a third party that might equip them even better for life?"
I could shit out 100 questions to get her on the fence and questioning this, but point blank, what do you want?
Figure that out, tell her. I need more details if I'm to truly try and help.
That's nice that her three kids would have the same family. Are you guys gonna get married and just ignore your family and go see his?
Wake up dude.
This post was edited by Anton24 on Mar 9 2017 04:18pm