Shaming would be effective actually. It flips switches to how our brain is wired to: "wanting to fit in". The downside is that the shamed feels miserable, breaks trust with the offender, self esteem drops and gets somewhat disconnected towards others.
It's easy and works when you want to control or trigger someone due to the wiring of our brains. The harm done, almost every time, is more severe than the benefits.

If ppl want to help ppl and make them change, you will have to inspire them.



This post was edited by Knaapie on Sep 21 2016 09:34am

Wait, slow down. You're saying that...you were internally motivated and made the choice on your own?

I'd say the bigger motivator was I wanted to lose weight and concerns about health. But shame for sure plays a role. Whether it be internal or external.

Although at least for the topic, Phil shouldn't go out of his way to try and make his friend feel like shit. But rather try to somehow get his friend motivated to make changes.

But I mean all I've really been doing the last year is just counting the calories I eat everyday. I try very hard to not go over 2k and for the most part I haven't changed what I've eaten in respect to carbs or processed food. I rarely drink pop. I've been living off tuna/oatmeal/ramen/chicken and rice and vegetables and fruit pretty much. Mostly tuna and ramen though. But my work has free food in the break room such as donuts and all the bad stuff and I still eat that stuff all the time, I just try to keep the calorie intake down.

I'm sure I should try and cut the sodium down in my diet but not really worried about that at the moment.

This post was edited by sir_lance_bb on Sep 21 2016 12:46pm