Quote (IceMage @ 20 Mar 2016 12:52)
Well, my best friend went a little too heavy on the booze for a month in college. I made a mistake by bringing it up when he was drunk, but I just told him in a nonjudgmental way that he was drinking a lot lately. He got pissed, I remained calm, and after a couple days of mulling over the seed I planted, he toned it way down.
So, I would just plant the seed in the person's mind. Honestly I would just start the conversation with "Have you been alright lately", and go from there. Act concerned.
Yeah, people tend to really hate it when their friends or family bring up the fact that they are drinking a lot, but in my experience it actually does get them thinking about drinking less if it is done in a good and nonjudgemental manner.
That's why I am against shaming. Certainly our society should encourage healthy behaviors but I'm not convinced personally shaming someone for an unhealthy lifestyle choice actually does much of anything other than hurt your relationship with that person.