Quote (HERETICtheory @ 15 Jan 2015 16:57)
How is that anything like the discussion that is taking place right now? We're not talking about people walking around pushing their self-confidence in your face. We're talking about people acknowledging and thanking someone else for noticing it and making mention of it.
I think you have some really great insights on certain subjects, but I'm baffled why you would decide to make such a ridiculous comparison in this particular conversation.
edit: And to be clear, it IS fine. I'm not saying THAT is attractive. But it IS "fine." What are you going to do about it if it's not "fine?" Attack her? You could just ignore her in a situation like that.
I think we both are on the same side, we just got off on the wrong foot. I was thinking with a mindset of manners. when it came to the responses. I wasn't thinking of a motivation on the guys part beyond the compliment. If the girls are being bugged by guys I could see how the constant barrage would be tiresome.
To my way of thinking a truly confidant person be it man or woman is proud of them self, and is self aware, yes. But a truly self confident person is also humble when you really know that you are intelligent, You don't have to tell everybody. True self confidence comes with a big dose of humility. So in my thinking answering a e-mail or other form of compliment by "I know I am" isn't showing confidence. It's showing something not as nice.
when I said that I compliment my daughters and wife on being beautiful, I surely didn't mean that was all I also complement them on their brains and strength as well. I do think it is a father's job when his daughters are young to help them to build their self image both inside and out. Because unfortunately society will judge them on both. So as often as I could as a dad I would let them know that they were beautiful girls..both when they were dressed up, and when working in the barn. But more importantly I told them how smart I thought they were, and how they could do anything they wanted if they set their minds to it. (side note my oldest daughter passed the bar this summer, after being editor of the law review for 2 of 3 years, she had top score in class in litigation and tortes she now is practicing in a small partnership specializing in family law and is the city PA for two small towns) She told me she was going to be a lawyer when she was ten.
What I'm saying is that I don't think I should be, and I'm not empowering myself as the sole provider of confidence I certainly don't give myself near that much credit. I do feel a responsibility to play a part though. not out of some power trip, but out of Love and responsibility and concern that they don't grow up and draw all of their feelings of self-worth from the media or a man they date.
I hope I've explained myself and my motivation better.