So I'm 28 and I don't want to be a virgin any more. My parents never let me date or associate with girls all through high school and college so I feel really awkward around them. My friends keep making fun of me saying I need to get laid. I've started trying asking girls out but keep getting rejected and feel like a retard. I asked one one of my coworkers out and got rejected and I asked her why and she said it's because I still live with my parents, not good looking/short/asian, have no sense of humor or personality. I feel kind of hopeless at this point, maybe I should just accept the fact that I'll be forever alone?

Just the fact that you asked why denotes that you absolutely do not have the right mind set right now

I usually find what you say true, but this is bullshit.

Taking a step forward, and asking for help is the first step in the right direction.

Look up "Simple Pickup" at YouTube. Great motivation and very helpful.

You'll have to realize that going from zero to hero is a big step, but keep your head high.

The fact that you live with your parents doesn't matter the slightest - But if i were you, i'd get my own place soon.

Looks are not a determining factor, the fact that you think it is is the reason you have yet to get laid, not the looks itself.

Humor and personality is just a matter of being yourself, which you only are when you are secure of yourself and your surroundings. It's not like some people "dont have personalities". You are just afraid of showing it, yet again comming back to your lack of self-confidence.

If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.

Asking women out comes with a lot of rejection (trust me its a two way street) but a lot of time there isnt an exact reason. Maybe the chemistry isnt there or they are seeing someone or who knows. The reason will vary. Usually they wont be bitches about it so I say keep asking! And if you dont ask, flirt make jokes, make yourself available. Let others know your looking and maybe the woman will ask you.

You may be tired of waiting because 28 is a little later to start the game, but don't rush the first time encounter. Just increases chances that it will be terrible. Something you will never forget

@the bold, The first thing I'd like to say is you need to put your "Friends" In their places, if they support you (Like friends should) then they should accept you, give you the space and/or assistance you need... Being made fun of is not a valid reason to look for sex, or a girlfriend. A lot of these things happen naturally if you're patient and accept what comes, if you feel like it's a necessity because of outside pressure it's only going to make things more difficult.

#2 you're going to get rejected, it's inevitable, learn to live with it. I don't mean "Always expect it" I mean project confidence when you ask a girl out, and have no fear of rejection because you understand it's part of the process.

#3 If you're concerned about your looks and personality it actually becomes obvious to females, insecurities aren't a bad thing but being consumed by them can stifle your personality. Buy new clothes, get some advice on cologne, talk with confidence, and absolutely be yourself.

#4 Get better friends.

This post was edited by TrouNce on Jun 21 2012 07:04pm

Fuck that shit.

Don't be "patient and accept being a virgin the rest of your life". Go out, meet girls, practice being social around girls.

And i mean that literally, go out. Hit on girls. Smile. Practice.

PS. "be yourself" obviously doesn't work for him. Instead be the best of yourself. Practice makes perfect. Work with what you have.

yup, I don't know whether or not I should continue trying. I haven't picked up d3 yet because I don't want to get fat and lazy but I might soon



I've been watching their videos, I talk to random girls I meet in the mall, groceries, etc. but haven't been able to get any numbers. I really want to move out but my parents won't let me.. I have to commute ~1 hour to work and I want to get an apt closer to work but my parents said they'll just buy a new house near my work and we'll all move there together... (I'm an only child and they're VERY protective). They won't let me go anywhere 1 on 1 with a girl... this one time I went with a girl friend to have lunch and my parents were stalking me the entire time -_-''
I dunno about looks, I'm 5'6" 150lbs, average build and I've been told I look like ET. I wish I was taller and caucasian.



Getting rejected over and over gets pretty frustrating



I'm pretty much a hermit since my parents won't let me go anywhere (my mom always calls to check up where I am) so it's hard to make new friends but I'll try. Usually my day goes like: wake up, go to work, come home, play video games/music/watch tv, sleep

Well, I can tell by reading through your comments to other replies, you need more motive in your life!
Shit doesn't just change on it's own, YOU have to make it change.

Tell your mom to back the fuck off! haha (maybe a little bit more polite)
But seriously. You're 28, speak up for yourself!

I'd recommend trying moving out, try living on your own for a bit in an apartment. If you live somewhere else, like another town, you're guaranteed to meet new people.
And if the apartment idea goes to crap, well, you can always move back home the next year/whenever the lease ends!

If you aren't happy with your appearance, change it. Work out, get new clothes, all that jazz. Maybe it'll help you find some much needed confidence!

Ignore this, I never said the bold and this person put it in quotes as if I did. Also, when I said "Be yourself" I meant without the distractions that come with lack of confidence, insecurities, or any fears of rejection. I also said to dress and smell better, which Lot2 ignored. So yea.. Be yourself, but better..

What I meant by "Be patient" is don't allow yourself to be pressured by outside influences. Like I said before, being made fun of is not a valid reason to seek sex or emotional connection. Look for it because it's something you need in your life.



You opened this thread saying you were 28, correct? I don't want to hear any crap about "My parents wont let me." I don't know your living situation but if you can support yourself financially, there is no reason to stay in your parents home. If you can't move out you need to start asserting some control over your own life.

Who are your parents to tell you what to do at an age of 28? I would sit down and have a serious talk, tell them exactly that if they don't stop, they'll be hindering your social life.

If they continue, just move out. At the age of 28 you should be financially independant.