I work full time, I train after work on Monday and Wednesday, and also on Saturday and Sunday mornings. I recently moved to this town so the only people I really know are my co-workers (all of them are about a decade older than me) and the people I practice Brazilian Jiu Jitsu with (who tell me they'll "give me a shout" the next time they go out, but never do).

It's a small town with a handful of bars that are rarely ever busy and, even if they are, it's mostly Natives getting hammered and starting fights with people (this includes their women).

There are plenty of pretty girls around (I know because I've seen them) but I've never had an opportunity to meet any of them and I'm not the audacious type so I'm not just going to walk up to a complete stranger and introduce myself. Not to mention that, even if I did, I'm pretty picky and looks can be deceiving.

Anyways, I'm not too sure what I'm hoping to accomplish by posting this since there's really no advice anyone can give me that will change my situation aside from "spend every moment you're not busy chasing girls". I guess I'll just have to keep moseying along and see what happens.

This post was edited by Autocrat on Jun 19 2012 07:42am

Don't worry, when you least expected, you'll meet someone, and you'll end up talking and getting to know each other for whatever reason.

That's how i met my wife... def the most unexpected way.

You won't find love if you go looking for it, it'll come to you through daily events, and one day.. fate will drop a woman in your path that you'll cross and magic will happen. Corny but happened to me, so i'm a believer

having friends will take time

maybe do something else you enjoy that is locally available

people who have same interests often are similar


also if you dont talk to girls you dont know
you wont find out about their characters. They dont have the chance to meet you
and everyone just loses because of it

It's just easier if there are introductions by mutual friends is all.

Why don't you give them a shout and tell them you are keen to go out - don't wait for them to call you

Well I see them plenty during the week but there's only so much I can say without feeling like I'm harassing someone, you know?

I appreciate the suggestion though.

sorry i didnt do this right.

If you dont have any friends in your area right now. How will the normal process of getting friends happen?

How will you have gotten the contact to your new friends?

Must those be male?

spontaneously I hope... And, no, they don't have to be male.

I used to be the same way about not going up and talking to people. One day I did do that... and now I do it quite often (not flirting or anything, just more outgoing). Try it and see if it doesn't help you "limber up a bit".

It really can be hard when your in a strange town. I've moved for work before... few hours away, no connections... can be daunting. I missed my friends/family and eventually moved back.

I wish you luck though